How to Be a Man
There is a cruel irony to society’s view of what “Being a Man” is. In general, we want a MAN to be strong, have the answers, and to take care of the family. Society also tells men that they are not allowed to explore their thoughts and feelings, and definitely not allowed to talk about their thoughts and feelings. Message received… “I’ll tough it out”.
The cruelty of the situation is that “toughing it out” only decreases the chance of a man being strong, finding answers, and caring for the family. Rather, it increases the chances of a man displaying irritability and anger, leading to isolation and loneliness. Results can be catastrophic.
If society accurately supports “Talking it out” as normal and healthy way of dealing with stress, anxiety, and relationships; not only men would thrive, but also more relationships, more marriages, and more families would thrive.
When men are taught to identify their emotions, and the resulting confusion and pain; the next step of “Talking it out”, helps a man grow more confident and self-assured. As a result, he is more available to be masculine.
So, stop the false narrative that men are not allowed to talk about their thoughts and feelings. Stop encouraging men to “Tough it Out”. Start, spreading the word that Men will be better Men when they “Talk it Out”.