"Where Social Skills Means Building Relationships"
Since 2001, Learning on the Log has provided an inclusive therapeutic social skills program designed for both typical developing and special needs children, including Autism, Asperger, ADHD, sensory integration disorder, developmental delay, and various anxiety disorders.
"We are in relentless the pursuit of "Emotional Corrective Experiences", because it give the best chance of generalizing learned social skills into other areas of a child's life." -- Armann Fenger, LAPC, NCC, MS
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Growing up, I noticed that people in my community would watch the relatives of the deceased, noticing if they did or did not cry; and passed judgment on that behavior. For example, if a widow did not cry while her husband was eulogized and laid to rest, people would quietly whisper to each other “She is being very strong”.
There is no way around dealing with life events. Some are easy to process, others are difficult, and some are traumatic. No matter what the event, we use learned coping skills to be able to move forward. There are many people, especially men, who have decided that “Toughing it Out” is their way of coping, rather than “Talking it Out”. But, what are the consequences?
“Lovers fight when they believe their partners don't care about how they feel. They fight about the pain of disconnection.” Dr. Steven Stosny.
When we feel disconnected, it is vitally important to relive that pain and become connected again. A huge, and common, mistake couples make while fighting is over exaggerating statements in order to make a point. For example, how many times have you heard, “You never do this” or “You always do that”.
Fighting is inevitable within any relationship, but it does not have to be a negative or a destructive experience. If both parties are fighting to improve the relationship and the situation rather then wanting to “be right” or to “win”, a lot of good can come from a confrontation.
There is a cruel irony to society’s view of what “Being a Man” is. In general, we want a MAN to be strong, have the answers, and to take care of the family. Society also tells men that they are not allowed to explore their thoughts and feelings, and definitely not allowed to talk about their thoughts and feelings. Message received… “I’ll tough it out”.